Getting Help
What can we do about it?
Protecting children from violence is everybody's business -
- parents
- step-parents
- grandparents
- aunties and uncles
- friends
- neighbours
- workmates
- teachers
- health workers
You can make a difference. If you see violence happening around you, take action.
"I heard screaming next door one night. I trusted my gut and called the police." Neighbour, 42
If you know an adult who's being abused, offer them support and encourage them to get help.
If you are living with a partner who's violent, get help - for you and your children.
- Talk to your children and tell them the violence is not their fault.
- Help your children understand that it's not their job to protect you
- Help them find an adult they can talk to
- Teach your children to ring 111 if they're in danger
If you know someone who's violent, they need to know that it's wrong. Encourage them to get help.
If you're violent, you're harming the people around ypu. You can change, but you may need help.
Lots of people who have been violent have got help and turned their lives around.
Recognise the warning signs.
Learn to do things differently -
- STOP
- THINK
- TALK... OR WALK AWAY
to keep yourself safe and others safe.
Try to do something about the things that make you stressed and unhappy.
If violence was part of your childhood, you don't have to repeat it.
"I used to get really stressed at work. All I wanted to do when I got home was drink and relax like my Dad used to. Then the kids would start winding me up and I'd lose it, just like he did." Father, 32
Talk to someone who will help you make changes.
Not sure where to start?
Call the Womens Refuge (06 3771717), It's OK to ask for help.
Call the Family Violence Information Line on 0800 456 450 or visit www.areyouok.org.nz
"Talking does a world of good - just releases the energy, calms you down." Father, 42
There is help available
Talk to someone you trust - a friend or someone in your family.
Don't be affraid to ask for help. It's really hard to make changes on your own.
Call Stopping Violence Services on 06 377 0933. Call the Womens Refuge on 06 377 1717. Call the Family Violence Information Line on 0800 456 450 or visit www.areyouok.org.nz
- If you or a child are in immediate danger, call the Police on 111
- If you have concerns about a child's situation, call Child, Youth and Family on 0508 326 459
- for a list of services in your local area, go to www.familyservices.govt.nz/directory/index.jsp
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